Disney & High School Musical have pretty much screwed us in terms of relationship expectations. I mean if you don’t meet your soulmate being forced to sing on a New Year’s Eve cruise with your family, where will you? In an age of split-second swiping decisions and terrible Tinder dates – you’d think that when you find a real relationship, the hard part is over. As your self-proclaimed fairy-god girlfriend it’s my job to give it to you straight. Relationships are hard and take effort to make them work. One of the biggest misconceptions is that 50/50 is the way to go and I’m here to tell you why that won’t work…View Post
Summer’s heating up and maybe that means your relationship is too. Whether you’ve been in a relationship for two weeks or two years, you are likely no stranger to the challenges of sustaining a meaningful partnership with another person. At a certain point in time (arguably around the two year mark) things start to change. Research says that the “honeymoon” period likely ends between 1.5 – 2.5 years into your relationship and conversations start steering away from their usual tone. When you start to notice this happen in your relationship it’s likely that you might…View Post
There is no secret that we all want to get our own happily ever after. We dream of the perfect wedding, the perfect proposal and the perfect partner. Someone to walk down the aisle with, go to sleep next to every night, and someone to share all of your hopes, dreams and fears. But in the quest for love, we may find ourselves at a crossroads of what we want our relationship to be and what it actually is. Every couple has their challenges so how do you know if your problems are…View Post
When you’ve been with your partner for a while, sometimes it can seem like you have nothing to talk about. Maybe you’ve been together for a few years, maybe you are married, or maybe you are high-school sweethearts who have been together for over 12 years (hello!) Unintentionally, your meal times can be degraded to sitting side by side and watching endless reruns of New Girl until one or both of you pick up your phones and start multitasking or working…View Post
When you get into a new relationship there is a period of time that you have to truly get to know each other. You’re still in your honeymoon phase and everything is rosey with unicorns and sunshine… until you have your first fight. What happens now? Was it a deal-breaker? Do you stop talking for a while? Not sleep till you figure it out? (BAD advice, FYI – sleep on it, always) But all of a sudden the tables have turned and you are in uncharted territory. How you deal with conflict will define your relationship whether this is a casual fling or something long-term…View Post
I was chatting last week with a few girls about love and relationships and I was asked: “What is the biggest sacrifice that I’ve made in my marriage?” I had spent the entire night chatting away, but on this one – I was stumped. “Sacrifice? What do you mean? I love being married. I chose my partner myself, he’s wonderful to me. What sacrifice could I have possibly made?” Three days later, it dawned on me.
You have to understand that I married one of the sweetest, kindest, and selfless men there are in the world. He wants the best for me and almost always over what’s beneficial for him. He is the kind of man that every woman should marry, and he doesn’t ask for much from me. But this one thing was important to him.View Post
Being engaged is such a magical time. Everyone is congratulating you and you wake up every morning staring at that shiny metal on your finger. You’re ecstatic, yet stressed about the wedding you are about to have. But just like you have to have the conversation about your guest list (and how your stepdad’s second cousin’s niece cannot come) – you need to discuss sensitive topics with your partner…View Post
There is no particular reason why I am entitled to give you advice on marriage. I’m not your grandparent who has been married 50 years or an award-winning relationship counselor. I’m simply (see what I did there?) a woman who has been with her partner for quite a while and is coming up on 3 years of marriage. Over this time, I’ve learned a few things.
When you get engaged, you’ll learn that…View Post
Today marks my two-year wedding anniversary I wanted to share some memories of the most amazing year that my husband and I have had. Sahir and I have together for 11 and a half years and happily married for only a short portion of that time. This past year has been…View Post
For years I have heard about the book, The Five Love Languages. It was actually Mae who first told me about it. As a quick premise for the book, it basically establishes 5 ways that people love with the notion that if you understand yourself and your partner you are…View Post